Q: Dear Gurumaa, to one of the questions asked to you before, you replied that “sex is not a hindrance to spiritual practice”. I personally experience that when I maintain celibacy for a month, it is easy to meditate and go deep. However, when I lose my sex energy, it seems difficult to go deep in meditation. I am not sure if this is psychological or a fact: meaning, is it practical to experience samadhi and continue to enjoy a sex life even moderately?

A: See, your question is giving me a very clear picture about what you really want; & what you want is not samadhi but good sex and you are just looking for a licence from me. And moreso, you have your own experience & your own conditioning of the mind which says that when you lose your sexual energy you cannot meditate.

What kind of meditation is that which you are not able to do once you have gone into the sexual act? Pardon me, but I think, you do not know what meditation is. And as such, most of our sages & rishis had been householders. They were living a pretty normal life.

But one thing is that there they were not hypocrites. They were clear, they were very clear about what they wanted, at what moment, at a particular time, whatever they desired. They were very clear about it and they were sure about it. And they had no doubts about it.

Please check your mind, what is your real goal? Is it just enjoying sex, with the blessings or is it gaining great heights in dhyana? You need to look for that first