Q: Gurumaa, in one of your articles you have written that those who are genuinely involved in some art like music, dance or writing, are so satisfied from within that they don’t feel like getting into sex. But in reality very well-known musicians or other artists seem to be involved in sex. How is this possible? Because I also feel that sexuality and divinity are two different extremes and one cannot touch both the extremes at the same time.

A:Well, you haven’t taken the real gyana from my articles as per your claim. Because I have said that those who are genuinely involved, and when I say genuinely involved that means that the person has matured & grown enough, but that doesn’t mean that the musician will not indulge in sexual behaviour or would not get married, or sex or marriage is against the ethos of going into deep music or being a spiritual person.

If you think divinity and sexuality are two different extremes, then you really don’t understand the beauty of our sages and you really need to delve more deeply into the subject. Gyan Manjri, you wouldn’t have been born if your parents had not indulged in sex. If sex was wrong & sinful, then this means that your very existence is sinful & wrong.

At least in Bharat- dharama, artha, kama and moksha are considered to be the four pillars of human life. Here, ‘kama’ means ‘kamana’ - kamana for food, kamana for money, kamana for sex, kamana for children and are not considered sinful. The institution of marriage was designed by our sages firstly to satiate & experience and then come out of the primal urges of sex; the secondary objective was to procreate and to give birth to children who will take over their work and wisdom. And the next generation would be responsible for disseminating messages & great work of ancestors.

That is why in Hindu and Sikh marriages, maybe in all marriages conducted in different religions, there is some kind of religious ritual involved. In Hindu marriages specially the woman is considered to be Lakshmi and the husband is considered to be Vishnu, as if they are the personification of Vishnu and Lakshmi. They take the vow of being honest and sincere to each other and of taking care of each other.

And this whole institution was designed in such a way that the person lives these physical relationships, creates a home, a place where both man & woman are safe, secure and together and they can work upon their spiritual aspects. But Gyan, you have a right to keep your view & one should not be too biased about their belief systems; one should always take some time to do more brainstorming on the subject.