How to handle depression in a broken marriage?
Sadgurudev Anandmurti Gurumaa shows light with her empowering words of guidance to a woman stuck in her broken marriage. Q. I have withstood 14 years of emotional abuse in my marriage. I have 2 little children aged 8 and 5. I am continuing the marriage for the sake of my children. Once they go to college I plan to leave my husband and go back to India. However I feel very depressed now and would like to know how to stay peaceful until my children go to college. Could you please help me? Gurumaa: Either you change your name or you do something about your life. You have such a powerful name, yet you seem to be so powerless and a weak woman who is not suited to the name Durga; so either change your name or mindset. If you are not having a congenial, friendly relationship with your husband and if you're just waiting for your children to go to college, then you can decide for yourself. Pay respect to yourself for the decision you have made. Why are you in depression? The option you have chosen is the best option you can make for yourself. As long as you are not happy in a marriage, there isn't any marriage. Most of the time children are born accidentally. I always say this that man and woman were having a good time in sex and the child is conceived and born. Now this man and woman or husband and wife are stuck together because of the child. You are the perfect example of what I am saying - you are stuck in marriage, you have no happiness in the marriage, and you are just waiting for your children to grow; you are just buying some more time. Please create a change in your mindset and know this: Every woman is a shakti. Until and unless she realizes this, she cannot be shakti. You have to know it. So create some nice distractions for yourself. Focus on yourself physically - lose some weight, learn self-grooming, maybe join music or dance class or join some social service group where you are able to help someone who is in bigger trouble than you! Most importantly, don't waste your life.