Q : Deep down inside I feel attachments to those I claimed mine in this life. How does one come over this in the real sense? And told by Saints that Krishna is my soul-mate but there are other people also. I don't want to hurt anyone in anyway but want to do my duties without attachments. Gurumaa please guide me. It is hard to say that I am not body as I feel the body and features like mind, emotions, and senses. How does one become a seer of this whole game and stay in the divine realm. Please bless us with your grace.
Vera Van de Vaate
Answer Vera Van de, your attachment towards your loved ones, friends and the family is something in which you are living everyday. And about Sri Krishna, it is just a speech which some Babaji or Swami has given to you. You aren't living your, so called love for Sri Krishna. You are being asked to love Sri Krishna. You don't love Krishna.
You want to love Krishna but at the moment you don't feel that urge, you don't feel that hunger within you, which you feel for your family, for your near & dear ones like your companion, partner, husband or wife. These feelings are genuine as you are born in a body and right from day one you functioned through this body, you have seen yourself in body.
You experience this world through senses and mind. You have seen the dear ones around you. You have experienced the goodness, care and the affection of these people. So, it is but natural that you have more affinity for them and lesser for the God who is rather invisible. Even if it is Krishna, then he is just in the pictures, in the statue of the temple. You haven't hugged the real Krishna.
You hug your husband, embrace your children, your friends, your sister, your brother but you haven't felt that warmth for Krishna as there was no physicality involved with God. There was no physicality involved with Sri Krishna. I can understand your dilemma. So, I would say that you need not cut your relationship, you need not run away from them and I don't think so that your heart is so small where love for God and love for your fellow human beings can not stay together. Because human beings are also embodiment of Krishna who is there on this Earth. Everyone is a part of Krishna. Krishna means ‘consciousness’ and this ‘consciousness’ is all pervasive. So, why do you want to separate the two? Krishna is not separate from your family. When you understand this, your dilemma of whom to love, your family or Krishna, will automatically end .
You can love your loved ones with all the depth and see them as representatives of Krishna. For this to happen, firstly, you have to see Krishna within you as your consciousness is Krishna. So, this body is Krishna and the other persons in front of you are also Krishna. The spirit within them is Krishna. Where we create divisions, we suffer. So don't create divisions.
But these things which I am talking about will take some time. You need not fight. We can love all, our family and also Krishna. So what is the problem over there? If you have really read about Krishna, understood his life, you would understand that he had embraced even his enemies. He had hugged even his enemies and in his heart as such, no one was his friend and no one was his enemy.
He himself said in Bhagwat Geeta that those who deal with me as friend I am there best friend and those who deal with me as enemy I am their best enemy. And definitely whether you have Krishna as your friend or as your enemy, you are pretty lucky person. So, no problem in that, Krishna says that I am just like a mirror which reflects whatever comes in front of it. Mirror doesn't say that yours is an ugly face so don’t stand in front of me or yours in a beautiful face so stand in front of me. It just reflects whatever you are.
So, we have to make our consciousness similar to the state of Krishna. Friends, family, people, God, Guru, Saints, Swami who so ever comes never get attached. You just give love but do not get involved, remain aloof and distant from all relations.
Gurumaa
