Q : I have 9 years old son. He is very intelligent but little aggressive. I am so much worried these days because he is afraid of darkness and is even getting thoughts of ghost and all when he goes to sleep. What can I do to make him fearless? I bought the Tratak CD of yours. Is it suitable for him?
Kunjan
Answer My God! The ghost cannot be kicked away by Tratak CD. It won't help. For the ghost, you have to teach your child to face the darkness. So may be one night when he asks you to go along with him to the bathroom due to the fear darkness, that day hold your kid’s hand, walk along with him, and take him to the bathroom. Switch on the light and may be you don't even switch on the light, just stand in the darkness and ask your son to see that there is no ghost. Ghosts are just fictitious characters created by the films and the T.V. serials. The young minds are very-very creative and imaginative; they just pick up those things and then begin visualizing them.
May be then, one day be in the room and tell him that I am here but you go alone. You can ask him, may be, to sing Hanuman Chalisa and tell him that Hanuman ji will kick of all the ghosts. May be the beginning can be like that. May the child do the chanting of Hanuman mantra 'ओम: नम: हनुमंते नम:' or may be make your child chant Shiva mantra 'ओम नम: शिवाय'.
I don't know which faith you follow but it seems from your name that you are Hindu and thus I am suggesting these two mantras. These are powerful mantras. Teach your child to sit with straight spine, closed eyes and chant the mantra. With this tell him to contemplate that “Hanuman ji will protect me.” “Shiva will always protect me. As long as I am doing my mantra, nothing can go wrong.”
Child is too young but this is the right time. When the child is fearful, use his fear to inculcate, remember God and doing Jap. Because the day he grows up and say he understands on his own that there are no ghosts, maybe he won't do the Jap when you ask him to do it. Use this fear for his benefit. He will learn to sit, he will learn to recite and slowly teach your child that the evil can never harm as long as you have goodness in your heart. No harm can touch you if you are strong. So be strong.
Well, what to say about 9 year old kid. I know about grown up adults who are fearful about ghost, chudail ( Crones ) and bhutane ( Ghosts ). If you ask them to go out in night, they are not ready to go. Ask them to live in a house where no one else is there, they will not.
I remember, one Fakir used to live in a graveyard. He would live there, spend his night there, eat there, sleep there, bathe there. One day a man came to him and said that I am really surprised, how can a person live in a graveyard? Aren’t you afraid of ghosts? Aren’t you afraid of all these dead people? The Fakir said, “No”.
The man said, “But you must be fearful some times.” Fakir said, “Yes.” When living human beings walk in my graveyard, I really fear them. I am really afraid of these human beings, because sometimes they come and steal my blanket, my clothes, my food, and my utensils.
But I never fear the dead ones because they are so relaxed and calm. They are just lying in their graves. They never ever bother me by speaking to me, by talking nonsense to me, which most of the living people do continuously. Don’t they just talk nonsense? It is hard to find a person who can talk sensibly. I am sorry to say but this is true that people don't have pea size brain in their heads. They just blabber, their talk is just unending and they don’t get tired by speaking at any length.
Gurumaa
