How can I be stable and calm?

Q : I never feel happiness. My happiness is fluctuating but my sadness is always there. My life is filled with tremendous stress. I suffer a lot even though I do meditation but it doesn't help. I can't face problems; I am afraid of everything, afraid of what may happen tomorrow. Please help how to deal with these destructions and become stable and calm.

Steven

Answer

Steven you are really in a deep shit. How one can live such life and for such a long period? Know that you have to learn to manage your mind. You have to transgress your mind.

Mind has a disease of compulsive thinking and this is what you are facing. It is called compulsive thinking in which you are always thinking on the negativities of life, about bad things happening, about the turmoil and the sufferings.

If you see a stem of a rose, you will never see the, rose, you will always count thrones. You will never see the Sun which is rising beautifully in the sky; you will always focus on the Sun which is setting. You will never rejoice the birth of the children happening everywhere but you will always focus on the death, wherever it may occur and to whom so ever it may occur.

Stevens, you need to come out of this mess of your own mind. And that can be done provided if you are at right place with right person. So I can only invite you to be here and let me work on you for sometime and learn the goodness and learn that you are the spirited, blissful soul and learn to enjoy & relish in your own true being. Then you will never be unhappy.

See problem is, you think that I am unhappy and now someone has to give me happiness. That someone may be a girl friend or a boy friend. That something can be motor cycle, car, cinema, good dress, outing, picnic, someone or something.

When you are not happy with yourself and when you don’t experience happiness within, you become dependent on circumstances, conditions, and people. In this situation you have joyfully given yourself into slavery of others. And no slave can ever be happy.

Have you ever seen a cow or a dog tied with a chain? If the dog is thirsty, he can’t even say that I am thirsty. What would the dog do? Just bark or suffer. Say if dog is hungry but is tied to a pole, what will he do? Just bark, what else he can do? Nothing. A tied animal is a sign of pure slavery but his rope is visible. The rope with which you have tied yourself is invisible. You can’t even see it.

What do you say I cannot live without my wife, my husband, and my parents? I cannot live without my house, my car. I cannot live without good food, good bed. I cannot live without money, I cannot be happy without this and without that. These are the ropes which have tied you and it is suffocating you. The noose is so tight.

How can an animal experience a joy? If you just untie the animal, he would run to the nearest source of water. The animal would drink water, may be look for some food and then….. Just three days ago I was in someone’s home. They had refrigerator in an open area. While sitting in the room, we could see that area. A cat came, opened the refrigerator and drank the milk. By the time they could reach there, cat had already spoiled the milk.

What could they do? So they said the door is little loose and see how smart the cat is. She has learnt from human beings that they open the door and they have stuff inside. So she opens the door and drinks the milk. Then they placed dinning table chair in front of the door so that it would become harder for a cat to open the door. But in half an hour again some sounds started coming and they peeped out to see what is happening. The cat had pushed the chair away and again opened up the refrigerator door and looking for food inside. How smart the cat has become. If a cat can be this smart why can’t you become smart Steven, like a cat? At least open up door of your mind and deep inside in this very mind you will find a treasure of calmness, ocean of bliss.

You have to push the door of your own mind and for that……. You say I do meditation but nothing helps. I am sorry but you don’t meditate, because no one can say that I drink water and yet I am thirsty. Can you say this I am drinking water but I am thirsty? I am eating food but I am still hungry? You must be drinking, may be tincture or may be some spirit, which is not satiating your thirst. I cannot accept that you meditate but it is not helping. Everyone is using this word meditation so often. I have a big doubt about it that do the people really know what it means to meditate actually.

Gurumaa

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