Difficult life because of homosexual orientation..

Q : I was born gay, so I know that this birth will not easy for me. I am in love with one of my friends. But I can't express as per the reasons well understood by you. Couple of years back my parents were pushing me to get married. As I know that I am born different due to my Karma of previous birth. Because of the same, I am punished so severely. This fact looms in my mind that I am gay and I feel ashamed of myself. I don't know how I am going to live the rest of my life. Please show me some way.

Sanchit

Answer

Dear Sanchit, please don’t blame yourself and don’t feel guilty for what you face. These feelings have come naturally to you. I know this society doesn’t see the homosexual relationships with any respect. But isn’t it something which we need to re-consider? Countries like USA and Germany have finally accepted homosexuality and they say that it is your life and it is you who has to choose your way of life. No one can instruct you on the way you wish to live.

First and foremost please let go of this guilt. You like being with boys and you are friendlier towards one particular boy; I don’t see that you should hate yourself for that. You shouldn’t worry. Also, I would suggest you to be open and to talk to your parents about it. Don’t feel that they will look down upon you. They are your parents and they will understand that you have a situation.

I won’t say that if you are in love with girl that is good and if you are in love with a boy that is bad. Goodness and badness is something which is very personal and it all depends on your perception. The society, especially the Indian society in majority doesn’t endorse homosexuality and heterosexual relationships are the usually into practice.

I don’t agree with the people when they say if you don’t have the hetero tendency then you are wrong or you are sick. Firstly, just accept yourself as what you are and how you are. Secondly, I have talked in length and breadth about being gay, homosexual relationships in one of the issues of my magazine called Soul Curry. You will find the answers to many of your questions in this magazine.

For now I say that don’t hate yourself, don’t feel guilty and don’t hide it from your parents, confide it with them. I hope they will understand, and say even they don’t, still no one has any right to condemn you for what you feel. And it is nothing to do with your past karma. It is just tendency nothing more than that.

Gurumaa

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