Dealing with Negative Thinking
All negativities are caused by an accumulation of psychological time and the denial of the present moment. Pain, anxiety, desires, stress, tensions, worries, resentments – all forms of fear – are caused by living unconsciously. When we expect too much, don’t wish to share and hold on to things and people, then we encourage resentments, jealousies, sadness, bitterness and become unforgiving. These happen because we are attached to the past and by being future-oriented. If you are living your life perpetually wishing for something, then you are giving rise to various kinds of turmoil in your mind. Most people think that a state of total consciousness minus all negativities is not possible. But the truth is that when the mind is made free from all these, when the mind is made to forget, is made absent of all these, and is filled with the present moment, then this state is possible.
It all depends upon us – do we allow our mind to take control of the situation. If the mind is given this power, then it will manipulate and try to subjugate you. The mind can work like a devil and make you suffer. Understand that the mind work both ways: it is stuck in the past and is looking ahead into the future. What you need to learn is a new style of living here you cultivate compassion, are dispassionate about everything and start sharing, then you will begin to accept your present, the now. Situations might not be comfortable but fighting with them is not the solution. We can work out without being resentful.
Being in the present, living in the NOW is the mantra, because life lives in the present. You are happy when you live in the present and meditation will help you achieve this. Conventional views aver that we must eradicate the negativities one by one. If this is the case, then it will take ages. There is so much darkness, so many ghosts of lust, greed and attachments that as you work on removing one negativity, the other will get stronger. The ideal way is to accept that there it is there and being conscious of mind, that is, by living in the moment.
Meditation is not meant to experience some happy moments and then get back to the troubles. Meditation is to be in a state where you have purity and clarity of mind – a Buddha mind.
All methods are meant to bring you in the present moment. This moment is so powerful that it will cleanse the mind and make it crystal pure. Fighting with the mind is not the answer to getting out of darkness, witnessing the mind is the key to be the purest of the pure. Remember, all negativities are in the mind. Deep down in this mind, you are absolutely untouched, you are the purest of the pure – because “I” is an illusion and when “I’ dissolved, what is left is pure emptiness which is neither positive nor negative.
Anandmurti Gurumaa has given many wonderful methods to help each individual to work on this. Every person is different, so one, single method is not appropriate for all. It is the master’s job to see which method will suit the individual. The path has been laid and it is now for you to take this wonderful opportunity and enjoy your Buddhahood.